"I don't have a large enough estate to worry about that." This is one of the most common things we hear — and it's also one of the most common reasons people put off something they genuinely need.
Estate planning isn't about how much money you have. It's about making sure your wishes are followed when you can't speak for yourself, and making things simpler for the people you love during what will already be a hard time.
The good news: the foundation of a solid estate plan is four things. A will. A durable power of attorney. A healthcare directive. And updated beneficiary designations. Most people are missing at least one of them — and the fix is more straightforward than most people think.
Why This Matters More After 60
At younger ages, estate planning often gets postponed because it feels abstract. When you're 35, incapacity or death can feel distant.
After 60, it isn't abstract anymore. You may be managing more financial accounts than you had at 35. You may own property. You may have a spouse, adult children, or grandchildren who depend on you — or whom you want to provide for. And statistically, the chances that you'll face a serious medical event that requires someone to make decisions on your behalf increase meaningfully each decade.
About 70% of Americans die without a fully valid will in place, according to research from Caring.com. That number is worth sitting with. It means that in most families, when someone passes away, the state — not the person who died — decides what happens to their assets.
That outcome is almost never what anyone would have chosen.
The Four Documents You Need
1. A Will
A will is a legal document that says who receives your assets when you die. It also names an executor — the person responsible for carrying out your wishes, paying any debts, and handling the administrative work that comes with settling an estate.
If you have minor children or grandchildren you care for, a will is also where you name a guardian.
Without a will, your state's intestacy laws decide everything. Those laws don't know your family dynamics, your relationships, or what you actually wanted. They follow a formula. That formula rarely matches what most people would choose.
A will does not cover everything. Assets that pass by beneficiary designation — like your IRA, 401(k), or life insurance — go to whoever is named on those forms, regardless of what your will says. That's covered below.
2. A Durable Power of Attorney
A durable power of attorney (POA) is a legal document that gives someone you trust — called your agent — the authority to manage your financial affairs if you become unable to do so yourself.
"Durable" means it stays in effect even if you become incapacitated. A regular power of attorney does not.
Your agent can do things like pay your bills, manage your bank accounts, file your taxes, and handle real estate transactions — all on your behalf, while you're alive but unable to act.
Without a durable POA in place, if something happens to you, your family may need to go to court to establish a conservatorship just to manage your finances. That process takes time, costs money, and creates stress at exactly the wrong moment.
3. A Healthcare Directive (Advance Directive)
A healthcare directive — sometimes called an advance directive or living will — tells doctors and medical providers what kind of treatment you want if you can't communicate those wishes yourself.
It typically covers: whether you want life-sustaining treatment if you're terminally ill, your wishes around resuscitation, and what kinds of medical interventions you do or don't want.
Most healthcare directives also include a healthcare proxy, sometimes called a medical power of attorney. That's the person authorized to make medical decisions on your behalf. This is separate from your financial power of attorney — though the same person can hold both roles.
Without a healthcare directive, medical providers default to doing everything possible to sustain life, which may not be what you want. And without a healthcare proxy, your family members may be left in conflict trying to determine what you would have chosen.
TheNational Institute on Aginghas a free, plain-English guide to advance care planning that walks through exactly what these documents do and how to set them up.
4. Updated Beneficiary Designations
This one surprises a lot of people: your beneficiary designations override your will.
If your IRA names your ex-spouse as the beneficiary, your ex-spouse receives that IRA when you die — even if your will says something different, and even if you've been divorced for 20 years.
Beneficiary designations control what happens to:
- IRAs and Roth IRAs
- 401(k) and 403(b) accounts
- Life insurance policies
- Annuities
- Accounts with a "payable on death" (POD) designation
Review every account you hold and confirm the beneficiaries are who you actually want them to be. This is especially important after any major life change: a marriage, divorce, death of a spouse, or the birth of a grandchild you'd like to include.
What About a Trust?
You may have heard that a trust is better than a will, or that a trust helps your family avoid probate — the court-supervised process of settling an estate.
Both things can be true, depending on your situation. A revocable living trust, for example, allows your assets to transfer to your beneficiaries without going through probate, which can save time and some costs, and keeps the details of your estate private.
Trusts are also worth exploring if you own real estate in multiple states, if you have a beneficiary with special needs, or if you have a blended family with complex dynamics.
But a trust isn't necessary for everyone, and it doesn't replace the need for a will — most attorneys who set up trusts also prepare what's called a "pour-over will" alongside it, which catches anything not already transferred into the trust.
Whether a trust makes sense for your situation is a conversation worth having with an estate planning attorney. The right answer depends on your assets, your family structure, and your state's laws.
How to Get Started
The biggest obstacle for most people isn't cost or complexity. It's the same thing that keeps people from scheduling a physical: putting off something they know they should do but don't feel urgency around.
Talk to an estate planning attorney. For a straightforward situation — a married couple with grown children and no unusual assets — a full estate plan including a will, POA, and healthcare directive typically costs between $1,000 and $3,000, depending on where you live. That's a one-time cost for documents that may stand for decades.
Use your state's legal aid resources. Many states offer free or low-cost legal help for adults 60 and older. TheEldercare Locator, a free service from the U.S. Administration on Aging, can connect you with local resources, including legal assistance programs.
Start with what you can do today. Even before you meet with an attorney, you can pull together a list of your accounts, locate any existing documents, and identify who you'd want in each role — executor, POA agent, healthcare proxy.
Review what you already have. If you created documents years ago, review them. Laws change. Relationships change. The person you named as your executor in 2005 may no longer be the right choice.
TheFTC's Consumer Advice pagealso has free guidance on estate planning basics, including what to watch for and how to avoid estate planning scams — which are unfortunately common and often target people in this age group.
One Thing at a Time
If reading this makes the whole thing feel overwhelming, start with just one step. Confirm your beneficiary designations on your largest account. Schedule a call with an estate planning attorney. Download the NIA's advance directive guide.
You don't have to have everything perfect by next week. You just need to start — because the alternative is leaving these decisions to courts, state formulas, and family members trying to guess what you would have wanted.
That's a harder situation for everyone. A little planning now makes things much simpler for the people you care about.
This is educational information, not professional advice. Retirement rules change — Social Security, Medicare, and tax law are all subject to updates. Always verify current information with official government sources or a qualified professional before making decisions.